Waiting Out Their Change. Sigh or THRIVE?!

People do change. I have changed. You have changed. Sometimes without even recognizing our change — “unconscious change”. Unfortunately, waiting for another’s change may be grueling for those praying, hoping, and or wishing we’d change. What to do, while waiting on another’s change?


Keep in mind, before asking or expecting another to change for YOU make certain you are in ‘demand’. If a person doesn’t desire you in their life or space the idea of changing for you isn’t normally in their top 5 things to do. As a matter of fact, it isn’t normally in their top 100. But if you are in their top 5 here are 5 things to do while waiting it out!

Five Things To Do While Waiting Out Their Change:

  1. Fix YOU! Yes, there is work you have to do as well. As we work on self, the flaws or perceived flaws in others become less magnified and maybe even invisible.
  2. No more sitting around. LIVE your LIFE! Yes, the world doesn’t stop turning because they, WE need to change. Continue to enjoy living, work, play, and laugh.
  3. STOP nagging! Telling him or her how much they should or need to change will NOT make change happen any sooner. Expect delays with this tactic.
  4. Remember how long it took YOU to change that thing in your life? Was it months or years. GOD was patient with you, and I am certain you can think of at least five other people who were patient, loving, and gentle as GOD worked on YOU. Now you try it: patience, love, and gentleness.
  5. Accept he or she may never change. Plan and live your life accordingly. There are people who may simply believe, they don’t need to change for YOU. No matter what you think about their lifestyle or choices, so get over it.

    Change can be a good thing, but each of us must recognize the need for change in our lives and then take steps to make such change. For some it may take a day, others months, and still others years – process. There may be fumbles in the midst of it all. In the end as we wait, GOD allow us to wait in LOVE.

Starting Over at 50. I love it!

I often struggled with the word and idea of reinventing one’s self. Why would one need to reinvent herself, if she has chosen the right path for her life? Well, after many years on this earth, I get it. I admire Diane von Furstenberg’s journey and resilience. Learn and come back strong! Read more…

Is Immigration Just About Numbers?

“Why is it that we, as Jewish immigrants, had one way of immigrating and have an easier path, and all these kids had a different experience?” Very interesting perspective, and admittedly something I never thought too much about. Check out the article in The New York Times “An Immigrant’s Dream for a Better Life” Read here.

I am Not Lazy. I Simply Do My Best Work At Night!

Many of us in the creative sphere know this all too well. We simply operate on a different internal clock. I was ridiculed and penalized for this as a child and throughout my early career. I was even called lazy. Ouch! Truth is, I simply do my best work after 10PM. I am well rested, more creative, and I have less interruptions. If it doesn’t fit, why are we forcing it?

Check out this article at the Atlantic. Click here.



There are so many answers. Good answers, which would move us forward as a people, nation, and world.
If we could but come together. Respect. Listen. Hear. Respond. Solve.

Ego certainly keeps us questioning when the answers are present!