Friday, January 27th, 2012
By: Dr. Lisa Hollingsworth Upshaw
Holistic Acupuncturist and Chiropractor and New Mom www.beingwellbody.comïwww.aboutmommyhood.blogspot.com
I treat patients who are looking to make life changes. Working as a holistic-centered healthcare model, my treatment sessions address the mind-body connection as an important part of healing. Even if a patient simply wants to remedy an old nagging pain, stuffy nose, or tire around the mid section, I usually uncover more beneath the surface. The topic of self-judgment comes up often in my healing sessions. Ironically, on the flip side, it’s something that I’ve become very familiar with lately as a new mom.
It’s amazing how often the notion of self-judgment creeps into the psyche. Am I a good friend, employee or entrepreneur, daughter or son, lover, or parent? These questions are contemplated at some point in even the most confident individuals. In my opinion, self evaluation regarding the role we play in the lives of others is normal. However, when evaluation turns into judgment and further into critical judgment, it is my experience that the health can be impaired.
In my new role as Gia’s mom, I occasionally find myself paralyzed and unsure if I am making the right decisions. I am constantly judging myself. Am I letting her cry too long? Am I a good mother? Do I hold her enough? In the same breath I feel bad for focusing on my daughter and neglecting my role as a wife. Will my husband find attention elsewhere? Does he still love me…? In this I have found that critical self-judgment breeds insecurity. And insecurity breeds compensation, which leads to a false reality and fear that it may all crumble. Maybe it’s not that complex? Nevertheless, what I have witnessed in my patients is that this paradigm lends itself to poor eating habits, stress that weakens the immune system, and most of all, unhealthy mental play back.
We must take responsibility and trust in what we know for sure. I know that I am doing the best I can. I am guided by a higher power, giving love and being loved unconditionally as a student of life. For this I live in gratitude and work to release self-judgment. All is well if we exercise the option to live in balance, stay away from being critical and understand that life is a journey.
*Dr. Lisa can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com
Tuesday, January 31st, 2012
Relationships God’s Way
Part I – Identifying the Purpose of Romantic Relationships & Marriage
Songs are sung about it. Books are written about it. Yet we still have more problems than ever in the area of relationships and romantic love. The divorce rate is hovering around at 50% for professing Christians and non-Christians alike, along with growing dissatisfaction in marital and pre-marital relationships. Some have become so disappointed with their relational experiences that they are avoiding at all costs even entertaining the idea of marriage, choosing to date perpetually or even live together without making their relationship “official” before God. (more…)
Wednesday, February 1st, 2012
New York City, it’s a place where tall grimy buildings stretch up to the heavens.
Down below; cabbies weave, and speed past to catch the next fare.
Brooklyn, Midtown, Harlem, Soho…New York’s… It’s like a giant gumbo, a cultural meltin
Wednesday, February 8th, 2012
Why the Good Samaritan Wasn’t Good
“Dear God, please let me pass this Latin test, and I promise I’ll sit down and learn properly the next time.” I was twelve and tried to bargain with God. I was willing to become more studious in the future, and in exchange I requested a simple adjustment of a few mistakes I had made in the torment of a test that day. It should have been easy enough for an omnipotent entity. Well, needless to say, I flunked the test. God did not deliver, and I called the deal off.
Monday, March 5th, 2012
Serene Bridgett Hollingsworth (SereneB)
Is it wrong to desire ‘perfection’ inside of relationship? I think not. The search for ‘perfection’ is not new. We were created by the Divine to be in perfect relationship, and we were in perfect relationship with the Divine and each other in the beginning. The idea of ‘perfect’ relationship aligns with our god self. (more…)
Thursday, March 8th, 2012
Release your heaven on earth, and support the KONY 2012 movement. I watched this and I cried for our children. All of our children. It is hard to know of this and do nothing. Watch the video, and I am certain you will feel compelled to do something! The time is now. KONY 2012 Movement!
Friday, March 30th, 2012
So many of us believe God is sitting on His throne angry with us and the world. That could not be further from the truth. The glory of God’s creation came about on the sixth day when he created us (man and woman). Humanity was created in God’s likeness. He took from Himself and gave us His life. He breathed into us His Spirit. Can you imagine? I don’t believe we fully grasp the magnitude of this event. — Selah (more…)
Thursday, August 2nd, 2012
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Monday, February 20th, 2012
Serene Bridgett Hollingsworth (SereneB)
We can be ready, prepared and well practiced and like a fine athlete have a false start in life. In track and field an athlete who moves, just seconds before the race officially begins, causes all athletes to reposition for a new start of the race. This false start will bring with it the consequence of disqualification from the event. One false start and you’re out of there!